Knowing when it’s time to call a relationship quits can be confusing. After all, all relationships have their own unique sets of problems, and require a lot of work, communication, and compromise. There comes a point however when the relationship requires too much work without any progress or growth. The following signs may be an indication that it’s time to move on.
- Your partner is unwilling to work on your relationship with you.
- You are trying to change your partner and can’t accept him or her the way they are.
- Your partner repeatedly fails to acknowledge your feelings or understand your perspective.
- You are being physically, verbally, sexually or emotionally abused.
- You find yourself feeling unhappy, unloved, or unimportant more days than not.
- There are fundamental and core differences in your values and what relationships mean to you.
- You no longer enjoy spending time with your partner.
- You frequently think about leaving the relationship.
- There is no trust in your relationship.
- People in your life who love and care about you have expressed concern to you.
If you can identify with one or more of the above items, then your relationship may be causing you more harm than good. Although breaking up with someone can be incredibly painful, the constant pain associated with an unhappy relationship is much worse and more damaging over the long run than the temporary loss of splitting up. Research unequivocally shows that people are much happier alone than in a tumultuous relationship. Staying in a problematic and unfulfilling relationship will not only keep you from feeling content and fulfilled in life, but will keep you from finding a loving and rewarding relationship, which research shows is ultimately more predictive of happiness than being alone. For more information on how to cope with breakups please read my article, “Coping with a Breakup.”